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What is Shyness

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A survey of adults revealed that c. 40% experienced shyness on a regular basis. Almost everyone - at some stage in life - experiences shyness. Shyness covers a wide range of possibilities from 'just a little shy' to 'socially withdrawn' or 'socially isolated'. If just a little shy, you probably experience an occasional sense of being uncomfortable in social situations. Or you may be slow to initiate conversations, at the same time as knowing you'd prefer to be chatting with people. If your feelings are more intense than just being uncomfortable in social situations, this can lead to becoming socially isolated, where you dislike even the thought of meeting people or trying to talk to them.

Though not commonly realised, shyness has physiological and genetic links associated with low self-confidence and aspects of depression, as well as a high degree of self-consciousness. It is common in some adolescents do not enjoy meeting people, feeling awkward and showing this by e.g., blushing or withdrawing. Some shy people believe that they are not really acceptable as part of the gang, not really interesting in any sense that matters. Noting what you have to contribute can help like giving ideas to a meeting or to a conversation. These don't have to be groundbreaking or highly original, but they do let your voice be heard. When you focus more on your strengths than on your limitations, you will begin to be more confident. Being ready to engage in chat and using opportunities to meet others will promote good communication skills. For help with shyness and social unease click here


Last updated 4 April 2013 by Listen, Speak & be Heard (Email).